Comments on: Is Facebook a Cyber Threat to Your Marriage?

By: sherri

sherri — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 18:59:27 +0000

My husband had an emotional affair with a coworker & most of their interaction was through FB. Now several years later, I am having issues again. He has several female “friends” on FB he knew when he was a young teen. They were friends with his younger sister.

He is on FB all day long at work! He pretty much only interacts with these women. He is very flirtatious with them! He comments on their bodies, dancing naked with them, etc. The comments are SO bad that my teenage daughter told her friends he was having an affair. He just won’t stop & doesn’t see why it upsets me. I cannot live the rest of my life with him flirting in a public online forum. I’m afraid my marriage cannot survive this…

By: lena

lena — Thu, 04 Aug 2011 16:06:24 +0000

i have just deleted my account yesterday as it has become a real issue with me and man,as i started to befriend guys and got chatted up and made the whole of his insecurities worse when i found an ex.even tho we have split up 4 times now he has moved out we still love each other.i realised how selfish id been noe listening to his insecurties properly ,did feel like i was being controlled but in the end that f.book i deleted to show hi that he means more to me than that…..blokes will just trytheir luck even if u are married etc.it seems online chatting is sooooo uch easier and i put myself in his shoes and didnt like it at all…… yes he has to deal with his issues but ive gotta deal with mine being happy that one guy loves me properly ..dont mess about with it i didnt realise how many people it messes up

By: nik

nik — Mon, 20 Jun 2011 23:35:41 +0000

Me & my husband are a young couple. Been married a year in Aug. And i hate that he has a FB and adds old lovers. I mean why? I feel it adds temptaions and what could they have in common to speak about? I feel he needs some attention from other women or something, not that he would cheat but u never know. He is such a little boy. He has a job and goes to work, but when it comes to knowing how to hold it down as a strong, loving husband (MAN) he is lacking terribly. I don’t even know if i’m happy with him anymore. I love him but i’m so tired of being the bigger person. When he shuts down and walks away i try to make him hear me and understand logic of the matter. But I’m 23 and this whole FB thing is WACK. Can u men just love what u got at home enough to give up a social networking site or get a divorce over it??….. Hey whatever u put into ur marriage u get out. U prideful men need to grow up. Go to work, take care of home and if ur wife wants u off FB…..LOVE HER ENOUGH to give the damn thing up. Really man, is it that serious???? Obvisous to some it is…..i don’t get it!

By: marriagejunkie

marriagejunkie — Thu, 09 Jun 2011 17:35:21 +0000

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By: marriagejunkie

marriagejunkie — Thu, 09 Jun 2011 17:34:15 +0000

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By: marriagejunkie

marriagejunkie — Thu, 09 Jun 2011 17:31:00 +0000

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By: cindy

cindy — Wed, 08 Jun 2011 06:29:09 +0000

For sure, yes.. My spouse of 15 years looked up an ex college girlfriend from 33 years ago that he told me long time ago she was from a wealthy family. Upon finding her on face book, it was an onging thing and when I confronted her, she simply said she had no intentions, he was just an old friend. When she sent him a birthday cake I demanded it stop and I thought it did but I was wrong. 3 months later i found she flew in to see him from LA, 3,000 miles away. This was the first time he had SEEN her in 33 years, he told me he wanted to go to LA because she could offer him alot and he wanted a shot at happiness before he died. He left 3 days later after she paid for a UHaul truck for him. He could not afford the move or an apt in LA because his only income is SS disability. This would never had happened if facebook did not make it possible for people to get out in cyber space.

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By: Neva

Neva — Wed, 25 May 2011 13:47:43 +0000

Never thought FB would be a problem in my marriage either until my husband decided to accept a friend request from a girl he went to high school with. We mostly used FB to keep in touch with mutual friends, family and share pics. Her profile is public so I looked out of curiousity and noticed she is a single mom, not in a relationship. No comments from my husband on her wall. I asked my husband who she was and he got very defensive, said he didn’t know her personally and that she was a friend of his cousin who went the same high school. He said he accepted her invite because he didn’t want to be mean. This bothered me because I am very protective of our family privacy. Especially since he said he didn’t know this woman. I mentioned did he see her page and he said he didn’t. Then I suggested he might want to. Couple months later I noticed they were still friends. I mentioned again, asked him nicely to please unfriend her because something about her profile made me uncomfortable. He refused, got defensive again and said he wouldn’t be mean. Couple days ago she liked one of his pics so fast I knew she had him on her newsfeed. Between this, the birthday wish and his refusal to unfriend her or tell me the true connection I lost my patience and picked the wrong time to confront him. He blew up, told me he wanted a divorce because I was controlling him and then furiously deactivated his entire FB account. Although this event is just a symptom of a much bigger problem, I wanted to share and just remind everyone-that if a loved one feels uncomfortable about someone you are in contact with or something you are doing, out of respect…just stop. No questions asked. That is what people who love do.

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