Comments on: Is Facebook a Cyber Threat to Your Marriage?

By: cooper

cooper — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 18:57:23 +0000

just ditch all of the social networking sites. my fiance and i quit both facebook and myspace because we feel that these sites are bad for relationships. you’ll have more free time with your partner, zero suspicions, zero temptations, and you’ll know who your real friends are when they actually call you on the phone instead of sending you an internet cocktail.

By: Rose

Rose — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 18:46:46 +0000

My husband and I have been married for 36years. One year ago he was contacted by an old friend and neighbor on facebook.They became “friends” and started chatting. At first I was not concerned as she lives in New Zealand and we live in S.Africa. I soon became concerned at the time my husband spent chatting to her, supposedly about “old times”. I picked up photos/cards and messages they sent to each other and approached him kindly saying it was hurting me and felt that he was becoming far too familiar for my liking. She was in a unhappy marriage and enjoyed his flattery and sweet talk. Then the sms’s began followed by a daily phone call. Then the e-mails to and from his work address started. I was devastated. To cut a long story short we separated as a result. He was away from home for 5 months and during this time they became even more acquainted. After 5 months he came home and promised me it was all over and he was home for good. I later discovered that she had flown out to S.Africa and they had spent a three week holiday together. They had also got engaged and planned to get married. Well things went downhill from there and he moved out once again. He has since flown to New Zealand twice to be with her and we are busy with divorce proceedings. My heart is broken and at the moment I hate face book.If boundaries are not put in place and adhered to this will be the result.

By: pril

pril — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 19:33:43 +0000

Wow, I can’t beleive people don’t know this stuff already, very basic info. Don’t you do stuff like this with EVERYTHING that is “iffy” with your spouse?
Very sad that people can’t even take ownership for themselves and use facebook as a lame excuse for a divorce or not being able to work it out.

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By: Lelia Chealey

Lelia Chealey — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 17:01:57 +0000

AWESOME!! I’m going to link this on my facebook. I went off Facebook for 6 months because of this very thing and when I returned I came back with my husband. We have a FB together…Gene-Lelia Jane-Chealey. Jane is my maiden name. It may look goofy, but I tell you what, the protection it offers this couple that have cheated on one another is so worth it! Thank you for your boldness and advice! I saw you all on Dennis Rainey’s FB.
Blessings,
Lelia

By: caughtintheweb

caughtintheweb — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 02:33:17 +0000

I agree with the need to set boundaries when using internet blogs or web communities like FB. I knew for a while that my wife had a very good friendship with a married man and spent time blogging talking about sports. I am afraid that she cares a lot for this person now and so happens that he is now separated and lives in the same area. Of course, this has caused alarms to start blaring in my head and now I feel like I need to monitor every thing that may be going on to save our marriage and our family. I hope to resolve this soon without too many traumas to our lives. At least I know what I am facing and I am praying to take the right steps to make it through this stressful time.

By: Harry

Harry — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 04:20:23 +0000

Geeze, sound easier to just not bother joining Facebook in the first place if you have to sneak around and look over your shoulder for the rest of your life.