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Do you Facebook? If you’re a member and over thirty years old, it’s probably your first time belonging to an online social community.

Joining a social network creates all kinds of questions for people, especially if they’re married. The news stories of Facebook-related promiscuity, affairs and divorces have been widespread and create concern.

As a result, some married Facebookers blindly jump into the online community without any set boundaries. Others tip-toe into the shallow end of the social network but don’t get very far. And others avoid Facebook altogether.

But just like most everything in life, you learned everything you need to know to safeguard yourself, your spouse and your marriage…in kindergarten.

Read the 8 Ways to Protect Your Marriage on Facebook at our new blog >>

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K. Jason and Kelli Krafsky are “The Social Media Couple”  who speak, teach and write on all things technology and relationships. Their hope is to empower couples, parents and families to use common sense and healthy boundaries in this social media age. Jason and Kelli wrote Facebook and Your Marriage (2010), the first book ever written on the topic,  and have written extensively on how couples, parents and families can survive and thrive using technology.  The Krafskys have been married since 1994 and live just outside of Seattle  with their four children. Contact them at the SocialMediaCouple.com website, techlationships.com blog, via email at info@techlationships.com, on Twitter (@techlationships) or through Facebook (Social Media Couple).

Copyright © 2010 K. Jason Krafsky – Permission granted to use and reproduce with proper source citation.

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Kids. Sex. Money. According to therapists, these are the most common topics married couples argue about.

After recently talking with a number of counselors and clergy about common marriage problems they’re dealing with, Facebook should be added to that list.  In fact, Facebook is one of the most popular relationship conflicts for today’s married couples.

Why would that be? With over 400-million users, Facebook has become the preferred communication vehicle for connecting with friends and family, and has quickly integrated into the daily routines of adults of all ages. And in its wake, many spouses are grappling to keep up with their feelings towards their mates’ rate of reconnected relationships, degrees of convenience connecting to the online social network, and their level of devotion to the website.

In fact, based off the research for our book, Facebook and Your Marriage (which included personal interviews with Facebookers, conversations with therapists, surveying many blogs and websites, and reading the dozens and dozens of comments from our various blog articles on Facebook) we’ve discovered that when a spouse says “Facebook is an issue in my marriage,” it is a general cry for help without an understanding of what the real problem is.

They mistakenly blame the website when it is most likely one of these five common Facebooking issues.

Read the common Facebooking issues creating marital strife at our NEW blog (techlationships.com) >>

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K. Jason and Kelli Krafsky are “The Social Media Couple”  who speak, teach and write on all things technology and relationships. Their hope is to empower couples, parents and families to use common sense and healthy boundaries in this social media age. Jason and Kelli wrote Facebook and Your Marriage (2010), the first book ever written on the topic,  and have written extensively on how couples, parents and families can survive and thrive using technology.  The Krafskys have been married since 1994 and live just outside of Seattle  with their four children. Contact them at the SocialMediaCouple.com website, techlationships.com blog, via email at info@techlationships.com, on Twitter (@techlationships) or through Facebook (Social Media Couple).

Copyright © 2010 K. Jason Krafsky – Permission granted to use and reproduce with proper source citation.

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Have you gotten a Friend Request from  a former boyfriend or girlfriend?

Is your spouse chatting with “someone” on Facebook?

Does Facebook bring you and your mate closer together or does it trigger arguments?

Facebook and Your Marriage is a brand new, easy-to-use , interactive, “here’s how” guide for married Facebookers to find answers to questions you can’t find anywhere else.

From the general “How do I…”

  • Find friends on Facebook?
  • Unfriend someone?
  • Protect my private info better?
  • Safeguard my marriage on Facebook?
  • and lost more!

To the specific “What do I do because…”

  • My spouse friended an old flame?
  • Feelings get sparked when chatting with my “first love”?
  • My spouse is on Facebook all the time?
  • I am emotionally connecting with someone on Facebook?
  • and lots more!

Different than most marriage and relationship books which read from cover to cover, with Facebook and Your Marriage, the reader determines where they start, where they end, and gets the answers to the questions they need help with right away.

Read more and view sample pages of Facebook and Your Marriage on our NEW blog (techlationships.com) >>

 

NOTE: The 371-page, full-color Facebook and Your Marriage is published by Turn the Tide Resource Group and can be purchased at SocialMediaCouple.com and Amazon ($19.95 plus S/H).

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K. Jason and Kelli Krafsky are “The Social Media Couple”  who speak, teach and write on all things technology and relationships. Their hope is to empower couples, parents and families to use common sense and healthy boundaries in this social media age. Jason and Kelli wrote Facebook and Your Marriage (2010), the first book ever written on the topic,  and have written extensively on how couples, parents and families can survive and thrive using technology.  The Krafskys have been married since 1994 and live just outside of Seattle  with their four children. Contact them at the SocialMediaCouple.com website, techlationships.com blog, via email at info@techlationships.com, on Twitter (@techlationships) or through Facebook (Social Media Couple).

Copyright © 2010 K. Jason Krafsky – Permission granted to use and reproduce with proper source citation.

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twitter-logo1Twitter is another online social network exploding into the mainstream!

People following other people they know, don’t know, want to know or hope to know in real-time someday.  Until then, the conversations are limited to 140-characters, including links to photos, websites or blogs through shrunken URL’s that look like a drunk typed on the keyboard.

I’ve been existing in experimental mode on Twitter for the last several months (follow me @marriagejunkie).  I’ve followed the messages among those I follow (feeling a bit like a grammatical voyeur).  I’ve watched how Twitter is talked about in the media (with TV reporters now begging for followers during the news).  I’ve read articles on how Twitter is revolutionizing the world.  (I’ve even corresponded with some of those doing the revolutionizing such as, Guy Kawasaki).

Read the rest of my revelations and advice on using Twitter at our NEW blog (techlationships.com) >>

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K. Jason and Kelli Krafsky are “The Social Media Couple”  who speak, teach and write on all things technology and relationships. Their hope is to empower couples, parents and families to use common sense and healthy boundaries in this social media age. Jason and Kelli wrote Facebook and Your Marriage (2010), the first book ever written on the topic,  and have written extensively on how couples, parents and families can survive and thrive using technology.  The Krafskys have been married since 1994 and live just outside of Seattle  with their four children. Contact them at the SocialMediaCouple.com website, techlationships.com blog, via email at info@techlationships.com, on Twitter (@techlationships) or through Facebook (Social Media Couple).

Copyright © 2009 K. Jason Krafsky – Permission granted to use and reproduce with proper source citation.

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facebook_chartFacebook is shaping how 120-million people stay in touch with their friends, family, co-workers and acquaintances.

>> Friends no longer need to initiate conversations through phone calls. Simply update your status (a one-liner about what you’re currently doing or thinking), and Facebook friends (FB friends) immediately receive your status on their profile page.

>> Don’t have time to email a bunch of people with what’s going on in your life?  Post a note or send a message to your group of FB friends with one push of the button.

>> Forget pulling out outdated pictures of your kids from your wallet. Upload a photo (or video) of yourself, your kids, and your experiences to your Facebook page and everyone in your social network receives the picture or video clip on their profile and can comment on it.

Facebook has become the new method of communication for people of all ages.  It is a convenient way to keep in touch with friends, family, old acquaintances, and childhood pals.

So, whether you are an active Facebook user or have a tepid interest in joining one of the largest online social networks in the world, how can Facebook improve and enhance your marriage?

Read our five practical ways to improve your relationship through Facebook on our NEW blog (techlationships.com) >>


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K. Jason and Kelli Krafsky are “The Social Media Couple”  who speak, teach and write on all things technology and relationships. Their hope is to empower couples, parents and families to use common sense and healthy boundaries in this social media age. Jason and Kelli wrote Facebook and Your Marriage (2010), the first book ever written on the topic,  and have written extensively on how couples, parents and families can survive and thrive using technology.  The Krafskys have been married since 1994 and live just outside of Seattle  with their four children. Contact them at the SocialMediaCouple.com website, techlationships.com blog, via email at info@techlationships.com, on Twitter (@techlationships) or through Facebook (Social Media Couple).

Copyright © 2009 K. Jason and Kelli Krafsky – Permission granted to use and reproduce with proper source citation.

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Ever since the internet has become a regular part of the human experience, cyberspace has been implicated as an accomplice in online affairs, real life adultery, and the break-up marriages.

With every new online fad have come the stories of spouses wandering away from their marriage to a new cyber love interest.  Media has spotlighted tales and trends of online affairs starting through chat rooms, MySpace, Second Life, websites and online forums.

Is Facebook, the world’s fastest growing online social network, just another in a long list of cyber threats to your marriage?

Having been active Facebook users for awhile and experiencing the good, the bad, and the ugly of participating in an online social network, we recognize there are potential threats to your relationship.  But the ultimate threat is not the latest technology … it is the choices you make online and offline … in cyberspace and real life.

Read the rest of the article and the 5 ways to diffuse cyber-threats in your marriage at our NEW blog (techlationships.com) >>

 

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K. Jason and Kelli Krafsky are “The Social Media Couple”  who speak, teach and write on all things technology and relationships. Their hope is to empower couples, parents and families to use common sense and healthy boundaries in this social media age. Jason and Kelli wrote Facebook and Your Marriage (2010), the first book ever written on the topic,  and have written extensively on how couples, parents and families can survive and thrive using technology.  The Krafskys have been married since 1994 and live just outside of Seattle  with their four children. Contact them at the SocialMediaCouple.com website, techlationships.com blog, via email at info@techlationships.com, on Twitter (@techlationships) or through Facebook (Social Media Couple).

Copyright © 2009 K. Jason and Kelli Krafsky – Permission granted to use and reproduce with proper source citation.

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the-obama-familyI have to admit that I, being a Marriage Junkie, hadn’t really thought about this until I read “The Obamas can be model for marriage” (by Cynthia Tucker – The Atlanta Journal-Constitution).

One of the most significant changes President-elect Barack Obama could have over the next four years has nothing to do with who he appoints to his Cabinet, the pieces of legislation he signs into law or the inspirational speeches he gives.

It has everything to do with his marriage to Michelle.

For more than four decades, great concern has been expressed about the condition of the African American family and the state of marriage in the black community.

In 1965, The Moynihan Report, a Department of Labor sponsored report raised concerns over the rising out-of-wedlock birthrate amongst African Americans (at the time, one-quarter of births were to unmarried women). Over the years, many black leaders, ministers and celebrities have voiced concern over the rising levels of fatherlessness and family breakdown in the African-American family. In recent years, campaigns such as Black Marriage Day and the African American Healthy Marriage Initiative have attempted to raise awareness of the importance and necessity for marriage in the black community.

(A great report to read is “Responding to the Black Marriage Crisis: A New Vision for Change”)

Could 2008 be the beginning of a new and much needed trend that revitalizes black marriage and the African American family?

Barack Obama gave a Father’s Day Sermon on the issue of fatherlessness stating that too many black fathers are “missing from too many lives and too many homes.” They “have abandoned their responsibilities, acting like boys instead of men. And the foundations of our families are weaker because of it.”

After getting some flack on his message from the likes of Rev. Jesse Jackson, Obama defended his message saying, “I won’t back up one bit in asserting that is a problem that we have to be honest about.”

In the years to come, if marriage gets revived in the black community, I believe it won’t be due to new legislation or new laws … it will likely be due to the genuine example of the healthy and loving marriage of the new President and First Lady. Barack and Michelle Obama exemplify the characteristics and qualities of married life that married couples and singles (despite their color or race) can be challenged and encouraged by.

And this opinion comes from a married, white guy who voted for John McCain.

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Posted at Ramblings of a Marriage Junkie (www.marriagejunkie.com) by K. Jason Krafsky, author of Before “I Do” (www.fullmarriageexperience.com) who is in all ways a Marriage Junkie.

Copyright © 2008 by K. Jason Krafsky – Permission granted to use and reproduce with proper source citation.

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