Kids. Sex. Money. According to therapists, these are the most common topics married couples argue about.

After recently talking with a number of counselors and clergy about common marriage problems they’re dealing with, Facebook should be added to that list.  In fact, Facebook is one of the most popular relationship conflicts for today’s married couples.

Why would that be? With over 400-million users, Facebook has become the preferred communication vehicle for connecting with friends and family, and has quickly integrated into the daily routines of adults of all ages. And in its wake, many spouses are grappling to keep up with their feelings towards their mates’ rate of reconnected relationships, degrees of convenience connecting to the online social network, and their level of devotion to the website.

In fact, based off the research for our book, Facebook and Your Marriage (which included personal interviews with Facebookers, conversations with therapists, surveying many blogs and websites, and reading the dozens and dozens of comments from our various blog articles on Facebook) we’ve discovered that when a spouse says “Facebook is an issue in my marriage,” it is a general cry for help without an understanding of what the real problem is.

They mistakenly blame the website when it is most likely one of these five common Facebooking issues.

Read the common Facebooking issues creating marital strife at our NEW blog ( >>


K. Jason and Kelli Krafsky are “The Social Media Couple”  who speak, teach and write on all things technology and relationships. Their hope is to empower couples, parents and families to use common sense and healthy boundaries in this social media age. Jason and Kelli wrote Facebook and Your Marriage (2010), the first book ever written on the topic,  and have written extensively on how couples, parents and families can survive and thrive using technology.  The Krafskys have been married since 1994 and live just outside of Seattle  with their four children. Contact them at the website, blog, via email at, on Twitter (@techlationships) or through Facebook (Social Media Couple).

Copyright © 2010 K. Jason Krafsky – Permission granted to use and reproduce with proper source citation.

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